Erotophobia is a generalized term that encompasses a wide range of specific fears. It's generally understood to include any phobia that is related to sex. Erotophobia is often complex, and many sufferers have more than one specific fear. Like any phobia, erotophobia varies dramatically in both symptoms and severity. It is a very personalized fear, and no two sufferers are likely to experience it in the same way. You may recognize some of your own fears in this list.
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I'm 22, a virgin and have had only two relationships due to my complete frigidity. I've always been highly uncomfortable with physical contact of any kind. Hand-holding, caressing and kissing bore and intimidate me and sex just scares me. I want to be physical only when I'm very drunk, and I've never gone past kissing. I want to have a normal relationship, but I can't bring myself to want physical intimacy. You're not asexual; your challenge is simply about being sexual with another person, and there are various possible reasons. Some people feel unsafe when they get physically close to another person — whether in a sexual context or not. This may be due to the presence of a phobia, such as a strong fear of germ-transmission.
I'm 21 and still a virgin. I grew up in a religious, conservative family in a religious, conservative country where dating and sex before marriage aren't the norm. However, I've never really been the religious, conservative type myself, so I've dated around. I've been seriously considering losing my virginity, but I'm scared, mainly of the pain, both physical and emotional, and regretting my decision not to wait longer although my upbringing probably has something to do with that.
I'm not normal. Why can't I just be like my friends? I don't think I'll ever be able to have anything inside me, ever. Is my boyfriend going to leave me? This is her story. I can't remember when the fear of my vagina started, I just know I was always really scared of sex and didn't want to attempt it. I never touched or went near my vagina and I didn't want to look at it. I thought it was hideous. I mean, I'd held a tampon near where I thought my vagina might be. But I couldn't push it up… I was too scared of what it would feel like.