Many barbershops are cruising zones, especially if they have gay-heavy clientele. Their interests and outlook on life largely reflected the habitus of the provincial middle classes and the most affluent layers of skilled workers. I grabbed the book and ran to the restroom. When I have those nights, I feel part of a gay tradition that started in the pre-AIDS sex reverie, survived a plague, and is still alive today. I have never been to a gay AA or CMA crystal meth meeting, but I have heard from friends who attend them that these groups are notorious eye wars.
Those infrastructures were neither as dense, nor as extensive, as I was used to finding in London and other large metropolitan cities; but they were not entirely absent either.
I must here give a word of caution. Alongside these geographical and socio-legal changes, new digital and locative technologies have enabled sexual minorities to no longer rely on attending specific bars in order to meet each other 7. Take your pick. Many people, myself included, like to people-watch at coffee shops.
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