Dalia Abd El-Hameed is a gender and human rights officer with the Egyptian Initiative for Personal Rightsan Egyptian human rights groupwho helped develop a set of recommendations for Grindr to improve user safety in imperiled areas. Other people have eagerly asked to meet in real life but once we did, they looked for any excuse to get out of the date. In his book ClassifiedHarry Cockshistory professor at the University of Nottingham, implies that gay apps represent a modern development of the personal ad, a form of mating that's at least a century old. On Hornet, new features include a Facebook-style activity feed, designed to shift the app away from a purely location-based cascade of profiles and more toward a traditional social network; SCRUFF has launched a Tinder-style swiping interface for relationship-minded folks and a gay events and traveling platform. In the years that followed, these same groups continued to push the narrative to win votes. And the Egyptian crackdown has prompted Hornet and Grindr to send safety tips to users in Arabic, reminding them to take extra steps to confirm the identity of users they might meet from the app and tell others where they'll be beforehand. You gotta love it.
Hundreds of men rejected and ignored me, or even mocked me for having the nerve to ask them out.
I didn't always get their names, but with the exception of the one guy in the polo shirt and basketball shorts who didn't have more than two or three words of English or at least didn't offer more than that to meI did talk with them. An app user once "claimed that because of my ethnicity, I should have been happy that someone was paying attention to me," he said. And the Egyptian crackdown has prompted Hornet and Grindr to send safety tips to users in Arabic, reminding them to take extra steps to confirm the identity of users they might meet from the app and tell others where they'll be beforehand.
I once had sex with a guy who told me he climbed into his young wife's hospital bed and they fucked, joyously, memorably, and I'm guessing painfully, just days before she died, and just weeks before we fucked.