When you are ready, insert your finger into your hole, slowly and gently. Type keyword s to search. The more lose she is the less pain she feels. You can do that more easily when you do muff dive or when you have sex, if the positions permits. If you are in anyway tense or nervous, then your body will react accordingly. If you do, then you are going to love the Piledriver position, although it does require at least a little bit of flexibility and lower back strength.
Your man will then lie right on top of you, facing in the same direction and enter you.
My guess is that we are all built slightly differently, making deep anal easy for some, but hard for others. In this position, the bottom lies on his back with his legs spread apart in the air while the active partner lies on top so the couple is face-to-face. If the receiver is facing the pitcher, straddled and mounted, with pitcher's penis inside, the receiver leans back, allowing the pitcher to grasp his wrists to facilitate balance. I had never ever experienced anything like that before — and nothing could prepare me for what was to come.
The Turtle is an excellent anal sex position for those who like to feel small and submissive during sex.